Human

Simply trying to be the best version of myself that I can possibly be.

Father

To an incredible four year old boy that is an absolute force of nature.

Counsellor

On a mission to make the world a better place, one person at a time.

Husband

To a wonderful woman that is complimentary to me and my mission.

What’s the score?

Hi! My name’s Iain, and my purpose is to help you become the best version of you that you can be. And in parallel to that, I’m trying to become the best version of me, too. To learn more about me, my bio would be a good place to start.

When I first started writing a blog back in 2005 I had no idea I’d still be writing it now. I thought it’d be a short-lived thing. I wouldn’t stick to it. That would be the kind of thing I do.

But here we are, thirteen years later.

This website is a collection of posts from all the various other blogs I’ve had over the years, and it is the central hub of my personal brand, with various spokes leading off in other directions towards my other interests and ideas.

My future aspirations are to be some kind of counsellor or life-coach. With that in mind, if people who need help find me through this blog, read some of the early posts and see that I have been in similar situations to them with regards to my mental health, they will see that I survived. And then if they see that I can help them get out too?

That’s the goal.

Admittedly, I’m still a long way from where I want to be and very much still a work-in-progress, but I invite you to join me on my never-ending journey of personal mastery, and my quest to help people become the best that they can be.

You never know. Maybe I could help you.

To find out more about where I’m currently at, click here.

Free-writing

What is free-writing? You simply write the first thing that comes into your head for a set amount of time on a pre-determined word. Try it yourself or take a look at mine.
Balance
Femininity
Masculinity
Ego
Perception
Infinity

Qualifications coursework

Below you will find the eight latest pieces of coursework that I have written for my qualifications.
L3CiCS Reflective Diary – 27th March 2020
Due to the ongoing Coronavirus pandemic, there was no college last week, or this week. Last week I caught up on my work, wrote up...
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L3CiCS Reflective Diary – 13th March 2020
This week, just like last week, we split up into small groups to discuss case studies in a simulation of a peer-supervision group. I presented...
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L3CiCS Reflective Diary – 6th March 2020
This week we split up into small groups to discuss case studies in a simulation of a peer-supervision group. The first case study I presented...
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L3CiCS Reflective Diary – 28th February 2020
We were looking at supervision this week, and in preparation for working on case studies next week, I am thinking about how to offer supportive...
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L3CiCS Learning Log – 28th February 2020
This week we looked at the role of supervision in counselling, and its importance. I understand that supervision in counselling is of the upmost importance...
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L3CiCS Reflective Diary – 14th February 2020
This week we split into small groups reflected on how what we have learned about the various theories so far help us understand our relationships,...
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L3CiCS Reflective Diary – 7th February 2020
This week we split up into small groups to discuss how we could use counselling theory to understand our own personal history, and to reflect...
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L3CiCS Reflective Diary – 1st February 2020
This week we talked in small groups about how we could use counselling theory to understand our own personality, or apply ideas found in the...
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Four years on. History is not over, things change.

Bit of a rambling one, this. Four years ago I had a mental breakdown and I walked off into the night with the intention of killing myself. I didn’t do it, obviously, I changed my mind. I turned away from the void. Vowed to change. To become someone I’d always …

Minecraft: Real life vs simulations

This post started off as a piece on how Minecraft evokes primal instincts in a person, but the more I wrote, the more it evolved. Have a read. You’ll see. Survive the night. Is there a more evocative phrase? When you start a new Minecraft world in survival mode, that …

Saying you’ve levelled up on your birthday is cringe

It’s my birthday today, and feeling nostalgic, I looked back on some of my previous birthday posts. Man, it struck me how cringe it is to say that you’ve “levelled up”. I get that it’s a videogame analogy, but it just doesn’t work when you apply it to real life. …

If your grandfather was here today, would you be able to look him in the eye?

Men: Are you proud of your behavior? If your grandfather was here today, would you be able to look him in the eye? Are you a man of the world, caving to whatever temptation it puts under your nose? Or do you want to be uncommon, a great man? Do …

Taking another year off

I’m finding myself in that situation again this academic year, mainly thanks to coronavirus this time around rather than financial worries. But this time, I can see it coming, and I won’t lose focus. I won’t waste this year. I’ve got things I need to do to be ready for …

Reflecting on ending self-isolation

This Coronavirus thing has been a bit shit, eh? I’m due to go back to work next week, and I have mixed emotions about it. On the one hand, I hate my current job, and these twelve weeks have been eye-opening to exactly how much I do hate it. I’m …

Self-isolation, quarantine, whatever this limbo is; week seven

Time is strange at the moment. It goes fast, but feels slow. Days take ages, but are over before you know it. This strange coronavirus limbo is warping things. It’s so quiet outside, it’s unreal. Eerie. Spooky. It feels like the entire world has been paused. I didn’t get a …

Self-isolation, week four

It reminds me of when I was unemployed, having all this free time. But it’s weird – instead of bumming around playing videogames all day and moderating meaningless internet forums, this time I am spending my time improving my situation. I asked Twitter when the lockdown first started if this …

Self isolation, week three

Last week went a bit quicker than the first week of isolation – but I put that down to not being on high alert in terms of anxiety the whole week. It’s reared it’s head again, but I’m slowly reeling it back in as things settle down. Looking back to …

L3CiCS Reflective Diary – 27th March 2020

Due to the ongoing Coronavirus pandemic, there was no college last week, or this week. Last week I caught up on my work, wrote up my thoughts on the case studies, but it did feel a little odd. It was hard to concentrate. It is still hard to concentrate to …