Human

Simply trying to be the best version of myself that I can possibly be.

Father

To an incredible four year old boy that is an absolute force of nature.

Counsellor

On a mission to make the world a better place, one person at a time.

Husband

To a wonderful woman that is complimentary to me and my mission.

What’s the score?

Hi! My name’s Iain, and my purpose is to help you become the best version of you that you can be. And in parallel to that, I’m trying to become the best version of me, too. To learn more about me, my bio would be a good place to start.

When I first started writing a blog back in 2005 I had no idea I’d still be writing it now. I thought it’d be a short-lived thing. I wouldn’t stick to it. That would be the kind of thing I do.

But here we are, thirteen years later.

This website is a collection of posts from all the various other blogs I’ve had over the years, and it is the central hub of my personal brand, with various spokes leading off in other directions towards my other interests and ideas.

My future aspirations are to be some kind of counsellor or life-coach. With that in mind, if people who need help find me through this blog, read some of the early posts and see that I have been in similar situations to them with regards to my mental health, they will see that I survived. And then if they see that I can help them get out too?

That’s the goal.

Admittedly, I’m still a long way from where I want to be and very much still a work-in-progress, but I invite you to join me on my never-ending journey of personal mastery, and my quest to help people become the best that they can be.

You never know. Maybe I could help you.

To find out more about where I’m currently at, click here.

Free-writing

What is free-writing? You simply write the first thing that comes into your head for a set amount of time on a pre-determined word. Try it yourself or take a look at mine.
Balance
Femininity
Masculinity
Ego
Perception
Infinity

Qualifications coursework

Below you will find the eight latest pieces of coursework that I have written for my qualifications.
L2CiCS: Reflective Diary – 13th June 2018
This is the last piece of work I’m going to be writing for this course, and I just wanted to record my thoughts and feelings...
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L2CiCS: Reflective Diary – 6th June 2018
Last week we were given the task to find an article or a problem from a problem page and have a think about how it...
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L2CiCS: Reflective Diary – 23rd May 2018
This week we were asked to find a newspaper article and describe our various reactions to it. This is the article I have chosen: Link...
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L2CiCS: Learning Log – 23rd May 2018
This week we looked at enabling the client to identify and focus on their needs and concerns. They might not know where to start, what...
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L2CiCS: Reflective Diary – 9th May 2018
This week we were looking at Ethics in counselling. Our tutor gave us some “Counsellor’s Ethical Dilemmas” to unpick and suggested we use the BACP’s...
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L2CiCS: Learning Log – 9th May 2018
This week we talked about Confidentiality. Confidentiality is a fundamental aspect of counselling. It helps build a trusting relationship between client and counsellor, and this...
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L2CiCS: Reflective Diary – 2nd May 2018
This week we were exploring the features of safe practise. My own personal definitions of the four terms we were asked to define are as...
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L2CiCS: Learning Log – 2nd May 2018
This week we were exploring the features of safe practise, using the BACP’s Ethical Framework for the Counselling Professions. The BACP’s Ethical framework is necessary...
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Reflecting on ending self-isolation

This Coronavirus thing has been a bit shit, eh? I’m due to go back to work next week, and I have mixed emotions about it. On the one hand, I hate my current job, and these twelve weeks have been eye-opening to exactly how much I do hate it. I’m …

Self-isolation, quarantine, whatever this limbo is; week seven

Time is strange at the moment. It goes fast, but feels slow. Days take ages, but are over before you know it. This strange coronavirus limbo is warping things. It’s so quiet outside, it’s unreal. Eerie. Spooky. It feels like the entire world has been paused. I didn’t get a …

Self-isolation, week four

It reminds me of when I was unemployed, having all this free time. But it’s weird – instead of bumming around playing videogames all day and moderating meaningless internet forums, this time I am spending my time improving my situation. I asked Twitter when the lockdown first started if this …

Self isolation, week three

Last week went a bit quicker than the first week of isolation – but I put that down to not being on high alert in terms of anxiety the whole week. It’s reared it’s head again, but I’m slowly reeling it back in as things settle down. Looking back to …

Self isolation, week one

You may have heard something about the coronavirus, I’m not sure if it’s on the news yet… Oh, who am I kidding, it’s everywhere. You can’t have not heard about it by now, it’s affecting absolutely everything. We’re self isolating this week because Jake developed a cough the night before …

Three years ago, today

Or yesterday, I forget. Whichever day it was, three years ago I was going to kill myself. I’ve come a long way, baby. Far enough? Not yet. We still have a ways to go. But still, considering the progress that I have made, it’s unreal. Compare the person I was …

The Lewis becoming an adult thing

This is going to be hard to write without sounding jaded, or bitter, but I’m going to try. My nephew, Lewis, turned 18 recently. He’s Jane’s sister’s first-born, and I’ve known him all his life. I don’t know where to start with how I feel about my perspective on all …

From Ramblings, to Reflections

I’m changing “Ramblings” to “Reflections”. It’s not often I make changes or additions to the structure of the blog, but this seems right. Language is fascinating, and this is an example of how the language you choose to use defines you. You see, “Ramblings” gives the impression of me waffling …

So I took a year off, from everything

I mean, it was mostly not through choice. We needed to make sure we would make it through the year financially. Sure, an exotic cat was added to the family in 2019, but other than that, we were careful. Frugal. Thing is, I got lazy and complacent. I found the …